7 Essential Lessons from Kūkai for a Life Without Regrets at 80
In today's world, where living to 100 is becoming more common, many people in their 60s and 70s—and even younger—wonder, "Am I living the right way?" or "How can I ensure I won't have regrets in my later years?"
To answer this, let's look at the wisdom of Kūkai, the great Buddhist master who founded the Shingon school of Buddhism. Kūkai was not only a monk but also a philosopher, poet, calligrapher, and engineer. His teachings hold valuable lessons for us even today.
This article presents seven key insights from Kūkai's wisdom to help ensure that, at 80, you can look back and say, "I lived a truly fulfilling life."
1. Recognize Your Own Worth
Do you ever think, "I'm not important enough" or "I haven't achieved much"?
Kūkai taught that "all sentient beings possess Buddha-nature." This means that everyone is inherently valuable and has a profound role in life.
We often judge our worth based on age, titles, or past experiences. However, no matter your status, you have unique value. Recognizing this can lead to a lighter, more fulfilling life.
2. Live Naturally, Without Straining
In modern society, we often feel pressured to achieve more and work harder.
Kūkai’s philosophy of "Sokushin Jōbutsu"—"attaining enlightenment in this very body"—teaches that we do not need to strive for perfection. Instead, we should embrace ourselves as we are.
To live naturally, try these habits:
- Take three deep breaths when you wake up.
- Let go of the need for perfection.
- Do what you can comfortably each day.
Living without excessive pressure leads to a healthier and longer life.
3. Value Human Connections
As we age, we may face health concerns, family issues, or financial worries, leading us to withdraw. However, Kūkai’s teaching of "Jita Funi"—"self and others are not separate"—reminds us that we are all connected.
When struggling, ask for help. Likewise, when others are in need, lend a hand. Building strong relationships leads to a fulfilling life.
Simple ways to strengthen bonds:
- Call family or friends once a week.
- Greet your neighbors.
- Express gratitude often.
Connections with others enrich our lives and ensure we don’t feel lonely in old age.
4. Accept Impermanence and Let Go
Buddhism teaches "Mujo"—the idea that everything is transient. Kūkai deeply understood this, emphasizing the importance of letting go of attachments to avoid suffering.
We often cling to past failures, achievements, or material things. But excessive attachment only burdens us.
Ways to practice letting go:
- Don’t dwell too much on the past.
- Avoid hoarding unnecessary items.
- Embrace life’s natural flow.
At 80, you’ll likely find peace in having learned to let go gracefully.
5. Continue Learning
Kūkai once said, "Learning is the path to purifying the mind."
No matter your age, continuous learning keeps the mind young. Whether it’s acquiring new knowledge or developing new skills, lifelong learning enriches life.
Ways to keep learning:
- Start a new hobby (painting, calligraphy, cooking, etc.).
- Read books regularly.
- Take online courses.
Curiosity and knowledge keep life exciting and rewarding.
6. Maintain Quiet Confidence
While confidence is important, excessive pride or self-deprecation can be harmful.
Kūkai never boasted about his accomplishments but instead focused on helping others. True confidence comes from being at peace with oneself.
To cultivate quiet confidence:
- Acknowledge your strengths without arrogance.
- Avoid comparing yourself to others.
- Always practice gratitude.
7. Live in the Present Moment
Many people dwell on the past or worry about the future, missing the beauty of the present.
Kūkai emphasized the importance of mindfulness—focusing on the now. Appreciating small joys, like a conversation with a friend or the warmth of the sun, leads to a truly fulfilling life.
Conclusion
To ensure a life without regrets at 80, start practicing these lessons now:
- Recognize your own worth.
- Live naturally, without straining.
- Value human connections.
- Accept impermanence and let go.
- Continue learning.
- Maintain quiet confidence.
- Live in the present moment.
By following these principles, you can create a fulfilling and meaningful life.
